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Interpersonal Relationship During Post Retirement Life - Challenges and Remedies

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I emphasised on the importance of interpersonal relationship in my previous post. One of my friend and old colleague suggested me to write on challenges in maintaining interpersonal relationship and its remedies. I am therefore writing this article focussing on challenges in maintaining good interpersonal relationship during post retirement life and its remedies.

2. Interpersonal Relationship during Post Retirement Life: After retirement there is a sudden decline in the number of persons in your regular contact. This decline is due to your separation from the organisation in which you were working. During working life, the number of people in your contact increases due to working relationship with your colleagues irrespective of organisational hierarchy and also due to customer relationship i.e., relationship with the customers of organisation in which you are working. The wideness in the number of regular contacts depends on the nature of work that you are handling in an organisation. For example, if you are looking after Human Resources then your area of contacts within and outside the organisation will be wide. Area of contacts of public servant is even wider due to their nature of work which increases their exposure to public in large. After retirement there is a sudden shrink in the number active regular contacts which are mostly due to drastic reduction in contacts of your colleagues and customers. This is but natural and it happens with every person after retirement. One should be mentally prepared for this at least one or two years before retirement.

The question of interpersonal relationship with a person arises when you are in contact with that person. The question of interpersonal relationship does not arise with the persons with whom you are no more in contact. After retirement your interpersonal relationship with your spouse, family members, relatives, friends, neighbours, etc., matters.

3. Challenges in interpersonal relationship: There are challenges in interpersonal relationship with various persons after retirement. However, the challenges are not same in every type of relationships. Let us discuss these challenges vis-a-vis its remedies in details.

3.1 With Spouse:

The interpersonal relationship with spouse matter most and therefore should be given the top priority. You need to maintain good interpersonal relationship with spouse throughout the life as you and only your spouse will be together for maximum period during the journey of your life. After retirement your most of the time during the day will be spent with your spouse. There are instances where interpersonal relationship with spouse gets deteriorated after retirement mostly due to not giving enough personal space after retirement. Further, instead of helping spouse in domestic work many persons start supervising the work after retirement and start giving unnecessary suggestions in connection with the work. Your spouse may feel uncomfortable with your supervision and suggestions since before your retirement she was in the habit of doing work independently without your supervision and suggestions. Instead of supervising extend your helping hand to your spouse in carrying out domestic work. After retirement your presence in home should not be boring but interesting to her. Develop the habit of listening more to your spouse instead of speaking more. Many persons share their experiences during working life to spouse which is not at all interesting to her. Instead of telling working life experiences talk about enjoyable moment in your life in which your spouse was also involved. After leading a long journey of togetherness with your spouse there are lot of real stories on you and your spouse which you can share in your spare time. Cherish good memories together. Never come in the way of personal freedom of your spouse.

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3.2 With Family Members:

After spouse the interpersonal relationship with family members matter most. Family includes your spouse, parents, children, daughter-in-law, son-in-law and grandchildren. Challenges in maintaining interpersonal relationship with spouse have already been discussed in previous paragraph. After retirement very few persons are having both the parents living. In most of the cases they have either single living parent or no living parent. Your parent needs your attention and they expect caring attitude from you. Be sympathetic with them and take care of their health. You can spend more quality time with them which will make them happy.

For improving your interpersonal relationship with your young family members i.e., son, daughter, son-in-law and daughter-in-law one important thing should be kept in mind that they hardly have any free time during the day as they are busy in their professional life as well as family life. They are having very limited time to spend with you. Be empathetic with them and never expect much attention from them. You should interact with them for important things during their free time. Never interfere in their personal matters and never give them unnecessary advices.

If your children's family is staying with you or vice versa then you need to pay your special attention in maintaining good interpersonal relationship with your grandchildren. It is not at all difficult to maintain good interpersonal relationship with grandchildren. If your grandchildren are not at school going age then you can give maximum time to them and they will enjoy your company as they are not always getting the company of their parents due to engagement in their profession. You can build good interpersonal relationship with them by telling them good and interesting stories. Be like a child when you are in the company of your grandchildren. Play with them and enjoy their company.

If you are having your own house and your children are settled in another town or city then it is advisable to stay in your own house with your spouse instead of staying with your children. You can visit to their place when they call or invite you. If you are staying with your spouse in your own house then you can enjoy your life with more freedom and your relationship with your children will also be cordial. Frequent and unnecessary visit to Children's residence may spoil your interpersonal relationship with them.

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3.3 With Relatives: After retirement many persons try to rebuild relationship with their relatives as their bondage with relatives got weakened during their active working life because of too much engagement in professional and family life. Even many persons remained unconnected with their relatives during their active working life. It is hard reality for most of us. After retirement when our children get settled in their job or profession and staying away from us, we suddenly feel to re-establish contacts with our relatives. It became very difficult to again establish contacts with them after a long gap. There is a mental barrier which will not allow you to make a first call to them. Breaking ice is the main challenge in re-establishing contacts with relatives. However, if you want to re-establish contacts with them then you have to take initiative to break the ice by making a first call to them. You may not be knowing that they may also be in the same boat and are looking for re-establishing contact with you. Always talk about positive things whenever you are talking to your relatives, appreciate their good works and extend your helping hand to them in case of their needs. Never interfere in their personal and family matters and never allow them to interfere in your personal and family matters.

3.4 Friends:

There is a drastic reduction in the number of friends after retirement due to cessation of working relationship with office colleagues. Out of 100 office colleagues hardly 8-10 will remain your friends. During our active working life most of us lost contacts with our school and college days friends due to involvement in professional and family life. Therefore, after retirement our friend circle become very limited. It is therefore necessary to build strong bondage with our existing limited friends. It is useless to visit office frequently to develop interpersonal relationship with your ex-colleagues. Please remember, your presence in the office after retirement is not welcomed in true sense. Even if there is a need to visit office due to your personal work relating to your pension, etc., restrict your visit to the Department dealing with your personal work and thereafter for your relaxation and taking snacks go to cafeteria or office canteen where you can meet your ex-colleagues. Never meet your ex- colleagues by making visit to their place of work. Even if you want to meet any of your ex-colleagues make appointment as per their convenience and meet them in cafeteria or office canteen. If your ex-office colleague is really interested in you, he or she will definitely meet you in the canteen. Do not bother at all even if they don't meet because you have visited office for your personal work and not with the intention of meeting them.

It is better to strengthen your bondage with your limited friends who are really interested in you. Strengthen relationship with your limited friends but keep touch with many known people as you don't know any of them may come forward for your help during your crisis or you may also be helpful to them during their crisis.

3.5 Neighbours: Maintaining interpersonal relationship with neighbours is also important. One can choose friends but one cannot choose neighbours. If you want to change neighbours then you have to change your residence. Privacy and other issues relating to residence like common boundary, common wall, etc. may raise certain disputes with your neighbours. Such disputes are big barrier in maintaining healthy interpersonal relationship with neighbours. One thing everyone should keep in mind that in case of any emergent situation which needs immediate attention, the nearest person to whom you can approach is your neighbour. Therefore, it is very much essential to have cordial relationship with your neighbours so that you can feel free to seek their help in case of emergency. If there is any issue with your neighbour you can solve it by mutual discussion over a cup of tea or coffee. There is no issue in the World which cannot be solved across the table.

4. Conclusion: Your post retirement life will be happy and peaceful if you are having good interpersonal relationship with the persons in your regular contacts. Good interpersonal relationship will give you peace of mind which will be helpful in improving your mental health. For maintaining good interpersonal relationship with the persons, you should have complete control over your words i.e., the words coming out of your mouth should not hurt the other person. Avoid too much intermingling with the person as it may spoil your interpersonal relationship. Always appreciate your spouse, family members, friends and relatives for their good work. Never talk negative things with any person. Always have a smiling face whenever you are meeting any person. Smiling face is not only helpful in maintaining good interpersonal relationship but also helpful in making new friends. Thus, smiling face with positive mindset and proper choice of words while speaking will be helpful in developing good interpersonal relationship with any person.

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Interpersonal Relationship

We often talk about interpersonal relationship whether we are in home, workplace, social events, sports, etc. In general, the question of interpersonal relationship comes whenever any work is required to be carried out by involving two or more persons. Interpersonal relationship is nothing but the relationship between two or more persons. Now-a-days, everywhere whether in Government Departments, Public Sector Undertakings, corporate sectors, educational institutions, social organisations, etc. inter personal relationship is given due importance. Why much importance is given to inter personal relationship? We will discuss in details about interpersonal relationship.

2. Interpersonal relationship is developed whenever two or more persons are in communication with each other. That communication may be due to family relationship, working relationship, social relationship or any other relationship. Our first interpersonal relationship starts with our mother just after birth through non-verbal cues and gestures. Interpersonal relationship of every individual starts from family. We are all having interpersonal relationship with other individuals in family, school, neighbourhood, place of work, etc.

3. Interpersonal relationship is very important in every sphere of our life. Good interpersonal relationship between family members creates peaceful and healthy atmosphere in home which is required for the overall development of an individual. Good interpersonal relationship between the employees in workplace creates proper working environment by fostering mutual trusts and cooperation. Good interpersonal relationship in workplace develops team spirit which is essential for the achievement of goal of the organisation. Sharing of information fosters collaboration and develop communication within the team which is possible by having good interpersonal relationship between the team members. Good interpersonal relationship in neighbourhood and society creates an atmosphere of peace and harmony.

4. Why importance is given to interpersonal relationship? Is it possible to complete any project without any interpersonal relationship? There cannot be any project without the involvement of human beings. Human beings are social animals and therefore interpersonal relationship is automatically developed whenever they come closer for any purpose. Good interpersonal relationship helps in creating an atmosphere of mutual understanding and trust which is very much essential for the accomplishment of any task or completion of any project. It also breeds cooperation and opens up informal channel of communication which is required for obtaining honest feedback. Through informal channel of communication many information can be gathered which otherwise is very difficult or time consuming through formal communication.

5. It is important for everyone to improve interpersonal relationship with other persons. But the question is how to improve interpersonal relationship? Good communication skill is required for improving interpersonal relationship. Good communication skill not only includes speaking but also patience listening. Only talking to other person without listening not only makes the communication incomplete but also hurt the feelings of another person. Lack of communication as well as miscommunication spoils interpersonal relationship. For good interpersonal relationship one should bury their egos. Ego is a big barrier to communication and spoils interpersonal relationship. For developing good interpersonal relationship, one should have genuine concern for other persons. Mutual respect for each other improves interpersonal relationship between the persons. If you want to maintain and improve interpersonal relationship then never ever ridicule or put down any person. It has been observed that in workplace may times one ridicule or put down his or her subordinated for not delivering as per his or her expectation. This spoils interpersonal relationship with that person. Interpersonal relationship with subordinates is also essential for the achievement of goal of the organisation. If your subordinate is not delivering as per your expectation then you need to handle it professionally by finding out the reasons for underperformance and accordingly counselling or coaching that person for making improvement in his or her performance. Focus should be on making improvement in the person which can be done by maintaining good interpersonal relationship and not by ridiculing that person. Never treat your team members as subordinates but instead treat them as your partners or colleagues. One should know to respect the other person’s view or opinion in both the cases of agreement as well as disagreement. One cannot develop good interpersonal relationship by disrespecting the view or opinion of another person. But it does not mean that for maintaining good interpersonal relationship one should always be in agreement with other person’s opinion. There are ways of communicating disagreement politely by giving due respect to one’s opinion. Before communicating disagreement, one should express gratitude for giving opinion and also communicate the points of agreement which will not only highlight one’s unbiased view to another person’s opinion but also professionalism in handling disagreement.

6. Good interpersonal relationship creates an atmosphere of peace and harmony in family, society, workplace, community and everywhere. Good interpersonal relationship reduces stress and acts as a good energy booster. It is having positive impact on our mental and physical health and gives peace of mind. It creates positivity and helps in finding out solution to every problem. Good interpersonal relationship helps in better negotiation with other persons. Good interpersonal relationship encourages the team members to go extra mile for the achievement of organisational goal. Cordial interpersonal relationship creates a win-win situation. A good leader always believes in cooperation rather than competition. Co-operation within the team can be built by maintaining cordial relationship between team members. Good interpersonal relationship develops trusts and co-operation within the team.

7. We have discussed about the advantages of good interpersonal relationship. Let us see what are the disadvantages of poor interpersonal relationship. Poor interpersonal relationship between persons creates animosity between the persons which led to increase in stress. Any stressful situation adversely affects the mental and physical health of an individual. Poor interpersonal relationship between the persons in any organisation creates an atmosphere of fear, mistrusts, unhealthy competition and non-cooperation which ultimately affects productivity of that organisation. Such an atmosphere in any organisation is not ideal for achieving organisational goal. One cannot be a good negotiator with poor interpersonal skill. Poor interpersonal relationship creates lose-lose situation instead of a win-win situation.

8. We all understood that there is no alternative to good interpersonal relationship. We need to develop good interpersonal relationship with everyone with whom we are in contact by using our soft skill. This will not only help in the development of an individual but also help in the development of entity, organisation, society, nation and the world. So let us start developing good interpersonal relationship with everyone in our contact starting from our family members.

Active and Happy Retirement: Various Ways

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Retirement is a major transition in one's life as one has to move from active working life to leisure and relaxing life. This poses new challenges to many retirees regarding spending time meaningfully after retirement. One's active and happy retirement life depends on spending time meaningfully and remaining active after retirement.

1. Why one should remain active and happy after retirement?

If a person is not active after retirement it may lead to both mental and physical problem. Inactiveness after retirement increases risk of heart diseases, obesity, metabolic syndrome, diabetes and many other diseases. Prolonged inactiveness may lead a person to depression. Inactiveness may bring frustration and anxiety in one's mind. Therefore, it is essential for every retired person to remain active and happy so as to remain fit both physically and mentally. One can enjoy retirement life for a longer time if remains active and happy.

2. Ways to stay active after retirement:

Retirement is a transition from active working life to leisure and relaxing life. In this transition your long working hours are replaced with days which you can spend relaxing and doing the things of your liking. During this phase of life all the twenty-four hours in a day are at your disposal. It is up to you how you utilise it judiciously for your betterment and to keep yourself active and fit. There are various ways to keep yourself active after retirement. One can choose any two or three ways to stay active and happy.

2.1 Physical Exercises:

Physical exercise is a good way to stay active after retirement. Daily morning walk for at least 30-45 minutes in a day will keep your blood circulation proper. It will help you to live independently as you age. Make your exercise plan that suits your schedule. Focus on the exercises that improves your metabolism, flexibility, strength and balance. Never do heavy exercise at this age. Exercise should be light and suits your body requirement. If you are having any medical problem then concern your doctor before developing your schedule for exercise. Walking and swimming are good exercises.

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2.2 Cooking:

Cooking food can be developed as a passion after retirement. One can learn cooking various types of recipes from internet and YouTube. Cooking as a hobby is helpful in combating feeling of loneliness in addition to keeping you fit and active. Homemade food is much healthier than processed food purchased from eating outlets or supermarkets. Further, while cooking food you can ensure its low calories content and more nutrients. Maintaining hygiene and ensuring food safety is under your control if you cook food yourself in home.

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2.3 Gardening:

Gardening can be developed as a passion because it benefits both you and and the environment in several ways. Gardening helps you in growing beautiful flowers which gives you mental satisfaction while showing it to your guests. It helps you in growing vegetables and fruits by using the technique of organic farming which gives you many health benefit. It is also good for environment as consuming home-grown food helps you in reducing your personal carbon footprint. The plants grown in your garden consumes carbon dioxide and releases oxygen and thereby helpful in preventing global warming. Gardening keeps you fit and active as it involves manual work which keeps you moving and you can reap the benefit of exposure to the sun which helps your body in absorbing vitamin D from sunlight.

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2.4 Manage Your Money:

Managing your own money can be your regular activity after retirement. Managing money after retirement is a very important activity because of dependence on passive income i.e., pension, interest, dividend, rent, etc. Without managing money, you cannot maintain your retirement life happy for a longer time. Since all the necessary expenses after retirement are met out of passive income which is almost fixed it is therefore necessary to make financial planning in such a way so as to increase your passive income to take care of inflation and increase in medical and other expenses as you age. You need to track flow of income and expenditure incurred during the month. You need to make monthly budget for your expected expenditure and plan for regular monthly saving and investment for growing your retirement corpus as well as passive income.

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2.5 Do Brain Exercises:

We utilised our mental faculty during our student life and working life mostly out of compulsion. But during retirement life there is hardly any such compulsion to use our mental faculty and there is hardly any scope for it. Therefore, it is essential to do certain brain exercises on a regular basis to hone our mental sharpness, boosting our memories, concentration and focus. Playing chess, puzzle solving games, building vocabulary, learning new language, meditation, etc., are certain brain exercises which one can do during retirement life to keep mental health in sound condition which is required for leading active and happy retirement life.

2.6 Stay Socially Connected:

Man is a social animal and therefore need to be connected to other human beings is already programmed in our DNA. It is therefore essential to re-establish your old connections and built new social connection with other persons. Strengthen your social connection with your friends, family and neighbours. Social connection boosts your self-esteem and confidence. Social connection helps in keeping your mental and physical health in sound condition. It helps in bringing down your level of stress, anxiety and depression. It also helps in maintaining your cardiovascular system in good condition and having sound sleep during night.

2.7 Have a Sound Night Sleep:

Sound sleep of 7-8 hours during night is required for keeping you fresh and lively for the whole day. Sound sleep helps in repairing your damaged tissue and enhance healing process. It helps in keeping you fit both mentally and physically. To have a sound sleep during night you have to do physical exercises and physical activities during day time and keep yourself detached from electronic gadgets at least 20 minutes before going to bed.

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2.8 Travelling:

Travelling is a good activity after retirement. One should have a budget for short distance, long distance and overseas tour. Travel after retirement is more enjoyable as you are free from working life stress and from many other responsibilities. Travelling is having many benefits. It makes us happy and relieves stress and anxiety. Travelling takes us out of comfort zone and helps us in overcoming the feeling of loneliness. Travelling after retirement helps us in knowing the World in different perspective. Your joy for travel starts from the stage of planning and preparation and last for a month after coming back to home. After coming back from travel, you get pleasure while sharing your experience to your friends and family members. It will also give you pleasure in future while cherishing memories of travel with your family and friends.

3. Proper retirement planning during active working life is required for smooth moving of your retirement life without any financial problem. Staying active and happy during retirement life is also equally important for which few ways are suggested above. Retirement life is a blessing of God and therefore live it by remaining active and happy during the rest of your life.

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Digha - An attractive tourist destination in West Bengal

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West Bengal is a unique state having almost all types of tourism. The State is having Beach Tourism, Cultural Tourism, Eco Tourism, Wildlife Tourism and Mountain Tourism. Digha is known for beach tourism and is having beautiful sea beaches.

Brief History of Digha:

Originally Digha was a village called Beerkul and was discovered during the time of Warren Hastings in the late 18th century. In one of the letters of Warren Hastings to his wife, it was mentioned as Brighton of the East. An English Businessmen, John Frank Snaith who was attracted by its beauty started living there in 1923. He convinced West Bengal Chief Minister, Dr. Bidhan Chandra Roy to develop this place as a beach resort.

Location and Transport to Reach Digha:

Digha is located at a distance of about 185 km south-west of Kolkata. Nearest airport is Netaji Subhas Chandra Bose International Airport, Kolkata and nearest Railway station is Digha. Digha is well connected with Kolkata by both road and rail. Tamralipta Express (12857) departs from Howrah at 6:50 Hrs and its arrival time at Digha is 10:15 Hrs. Both AC Chair car and non-AC Chair Car coaches are there in the train. Tamralipta Express (12858) departs from Digha at 10:35 Hrs. and its arrival time at Howrah is 13:55 Hrs. There are other trains but I prefer Tamralipta Express because journey is much comfortable in this train. You may also prefer road transport either by bus or by car / cab. One may book bus tickets online from the website of redbus where the information on fares of buses run by various transport operators with schedule time of departure are given.

Accommodation in Digha:

Almost all types of accomodations i.e., budget hotels to star hotels are available in Digha. There are few hotels owned by Government of West Bengal and its undertaking i.e., Saikatabas, Dighali Tourism Property, Digha Tourist Lodge, Oceana Tourist Complex, Digha Holiday Home (Abasarika). There are some star hotels like Dolphin, Hotel Seagull, Rupasi Bangla, Hotel Sea Hawk, etc. There are some hotels in Digha near sea beach, i.e., Saikatabas, Hotel Sea Hawk, Hotel Seagull. Hotel Le ROi is near Digha Railway station.

Local Transports available in Digha:

Local transports available in Digha are Toto (e-vehicle), Auto-Rickshaw and Tourist Car. One need to bargain while hiring any vehicle.

Places of Interests in Digha:

Sea beaches in Digha are famous for its wideness and is having one of the widest beaches in the world. Sea beaches in both New and Old Digha are attractive. There is a metalled road parallel to sea beach from New Digha to Mohana. Sea beach in Digha is very neat and clean because of prohibition of use of polythene bag in Digha.

👈(Wide and Clean Sea beach in Old Digha)

The picture in the left shows the wide and clean sea beach in Old Digha on the way to Mohana. You may see the seating arrangements on the embankment of sea beach where tourists can seat and enjoy sea waves. This sea beach is extended up to Mohana. Both sunrise and sunset are enjoyable in the sea beach of Digha. Sea beaches in both Old and New Digha are having tourist attractions. New Digha is at a distance of about 2 Km from Old Digha. Shared Autos are available to commute between Old and New Digha.

Sea beach sites of both Old and New Digha are attractive. One can take bath in sea beaches of both Old and New Digha during the morning hours provided sea is not turbulent. Evening and Night are also enjoyable in the sea beaches of both Old and New Digha. You can also enjoy horse riding and boat riding in sea beach during evening hours.

(View of New Digha Sea beach in the evening)👉

You can see tourists enjoying in the sea beach of Digha. Night is beautiful near sea beaches of both Old and New Digha. You will find many stalls near sea beach selling food items, bags, garments, articles made from conch, etc. Roads and streets near sea beaches are well decorated with light. You may find lighting decoration near sea beach. You can enjoy eating sea foods in sea beach. Prawn fry (Chingri Bhaja) is famous and delicious seafood.

Sunrise is beautiful at Mohana. When the sun rises, it appears as it is rising from the middle of the sea. It is a meeting point of river Champa and Bay of Bengal. During high tide you will not find any demarcation between sea and river. River Champa is clearly visible during low tide. There is a wholesale fish market at Mohana. In this fish market fishermen sell fish at wholesale prices. Fresh sea fish like Shrimp, Bhola, Vetki, etc. are available in this market from where many tourists prefer to buy fish and cook it in their room. Many tourists from Kolkata and nearby places buy fish on the last day of the tour for taking it to their destinations.

Amarabati Park is another tourist attraction place which is at 5 minutes walking distance from New Digha sea beach. There is an entry fee of ₹10 per person for entering inside the park. However, there is no entry fee for the children below the age of 3 years. The park is open from 7.30 am to 5.30 pm. It is better to visit this park during winter season i.e., from October to February. You will have pleasant weather during this period. It is better to avoid visiting this place during summer and monsoon season. There is a beautiful lake in the middle of the park with boating facility. There is a paved walkway surrounding the lake. There is a ropeway inside the park for which one has to buy ticket separately. One has to buy separate ticket for boating in the lake. You will find varieties of plants, birds and animals inside the park. There is a play area for children.

Marine Aquarium of Zoological Survey of India is another tourist attraction in Digha. It is a Marine Aquarium cum Regional Centre (MARC) and has the largest inbuilt aquarium in India. You will find the following three kinds of creatures in the aquarium.

(i) Species of Conservative Importance

(ii) Local and Curious Species

(iii) Freshwater Species

MARC, Digha is one of the 16th Regional Centres of Zoological Survey of India under Ministry of Environment and Forests, Government of India. It was established in 1989 and is having two distinct wings i.e., Research Centre and Aquarium. Aquarium was opened to the public on February 04, 2003. Research Centre provides facilities to all accredited researchers working in the field of various aspects of coastal marine ecosystem. The information on various aspects of coastal and marine biodiversity are available with the Centre. The aquarium consists of 24 large aquarium tanks exhibiting various marine species including horse-shoe crabs, sea anemones, lobsters, starfishes, sharks, etc. For more information, one can visit the official website of Zoological Survey of India, Government of India.

Other Places of Interests near Digha:

In addition to the above-mentioned places of interest in Digha, there are some other tourist attraction places near Digha. Chandaneswar Shiv Temple, Mandarmani Beach, Shankarpur Beach and Udaipur Beach are tourist attraction places near Digha. Mandarmani Beach is famous for water sport activities. Digha-Mandarmani Beach festival is celebrated in the month of January every year.

It is not possible to cover all the places in Digha and surrounding areas in 2-3 days short tour. It is better to cover beaches and other places in New and Old Digha in one tour for 3-4 days so that you can enjoy sightseeing with rest and leisure. Mandarmani beach, Shankarpur beach, Chandaneswar Shiv Temple, Udaipur beach, etc., may be covered in another tour for 3-4 days with stay in Mandarmani. There are good hotels in Mandarmani near sea beach. If you are staying in far off place then it is advisable to spend at least 6-7 days in Digha and Mandarmani to cover maximum places in and around Digha and Mandarmani. It is better to travel to these places during winter season.

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जीवन की दूसरी पारी के दौरान दीघा में हनीमून

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मैं स्वयं अपनी पत्नी के साथ अपनी शादी के लगभग 30 साल बाद 19 अप्रैल से 22 अप्रैल, 2022 तक दूसरी बार दीघा आया हूं। 26 अप्रैल 1992 को मेरी शादी के ठीक बाद मई 1992 के दौरान हम पहली बार दीघा गए थे। जैसा कि आप जानते हैं कि मानसिक स्वास्थ्य पर मेरी पिछली पोस्ट में मैंने आनंद और मनोरंजन के लिए बाहर जाने पर जोर दिया था। इसी उद्देश्य से हमने दीघा जाने का फैसला किया।

दीघा पश्चिम बंगाल का सबसे लोकप्रिय समुद्र तट है और कोलकाता से लगभग 185 किमी दूर है। यह पश्चिम बंगाल के पूर्व मेदिनीपुर जिले में एक समुद्र तटीय सैरगाह शहर है और बंगाल की खाड़ी के समुद्र तट पर स्थित है। दीघा समुद्र तट पर सूर्योदय और सूर्यास्त दोनों का ही आनंद मिलता है। दीघा के बारे में विस्तार से जानकारी मैं अपनी आने वाली पोस्ट में दूंगा। इस पोस्ट में मैं दीघा की अपनी यात्रा पर ध्यान केंद्रित करना चाहूंगा।

दीघा की यह हमारी दूसरी हनीमून यात्रा है क्योंकि हमारी पहली हनीमून यात्रा हमारी शादी के ठीक बाद दीघा की थी। दीघा की अपनी पहली हनीमून यात्रा से लगभग 30 साल बाद हम दीघा गए हैं। इस बार हमने इस यात्रा के दौरान कई बदलाव देखे।

जो परिवर्तन हमने इस यात्रा के दौरान देखे:

30 साल पहले हमारी शादी के ठीक बाद, हमने दीघा में हनीमून के लिए जाने की योजना बनाई थी। उस समय, हमने बस से दीघा की यात्रा की, क्योंकि उस समय सड़क परिवहन ही एकमात्र उपलब्ध विकल्प था। लेकिन इस बार हमने हावड़ा से दीघा तक की यात्रा ‘ताम्रलिप्ता एक्सप्रेस’ ट्रेन से की। मैं हमेशा ट्रेन से यात्रा करना पसंद करता हूं क्योंकि सड़क परिवहन की तुलना में रेल परिवहन मेरे लिए अधिक आरामदायक है। तमलुक-दीघा रेल ट्रैक के पूरा होने के बाद हावड़ा से दीघा तक रेल परिवहन शुरू हुआ। तमलुक से दीघा रेलवे लाइन 2004 में खोली गई थी और 2012-13 के दौरान ट्रैक का विद्युतीकरण किया गया था।

👈(हावड़ा से एसी चेयर कार में ताम्रलिप्ता एक्सप्रेस द्वारा दीघा की यात्रा)

ताम्रलिप्ता एक्सप्रेस ट्रेन हावड़ा स्टेशन से सुबह 6.50 बजे रवाना हुई और सुबह 10.00 बजे दीघा रेलवे स्टेशन पहुंची। दीघा रेलवे स्टेशन से हमने अपने हॉलिडे होम तक पहुंचने के लिए एक टोटो (एक इलेक्ट्रिक वाहन) भाड़े पर लिया।हॉलिडे होम में हमारा रहना आरामदायक था। हमें केयर टेकर से घूमने के स्थानों और उचित किराए सहित परिवहन के साधन के बारे में बहुत सारी जानकारी मिली। हमने सुबह और शाम दोनों समय समुद्र तटों की सुंदरता का आनंद लिया। इस बार हमें पुराने और नए दीघा के समुद्री तटों के पास बहुत से पर्यटक आकर्षण देखने को मिले। इस बार हम अपनी को-ऑपरेटिव क्रेडिट सोसाइटी के हॉलिडे होम में रुके थे जबकि 30 साल पहले हम होटल सी हॉक में रुके थे जो ओल्ड दीघा समुद्र तट के निकट है।

(1992 में समुद्र तट की ओर से होटल सी हॉक) 👇

(2022 में समुद्र तट की ओर से होटल सी हॉक)👉

एक ही स्थान की ये दो तस्वीरें 30 वर्षों की अवधि के दौरान हुए परिवर्तनों को दर्शाती हैं। समुद्र तटों के पास बहुत विकास हुआ।2022 में ली गई इस तस्वीर से स्पष्ट है कि समुद्र तटों के पास के स्थान अब अधिक साफ और स्वच्छ तथा आकर्षक हैं। दीघा में प्लास्टिक कैरी बैग का इस्तेमाल पूरी तरह से प्रतिबंधित कर दिया गया है। इससे दीघा में समुद्र तटों की सफाई बनाए रखने में मदद मिली। इस बार मैंने देखा कि समुद्र के किनारे और समुद्र तटों पर प्लास्टिक और अन्य कचरा नहीं है। दीघा में समुद्र तट साफ और स्वच्छ तथा आकर्षक हैं।

👈(दीघा में सुंदर और स्वच्छ समुद्र तट)

हमने रोजाना सुबह और शाम समुद्र तटों की सुंदरता का आनंद लिया। हमने समुद्री हवा और समुद्री लहरों की गर्जना का आनंद लिया। शाम को समुद्र तट पर बैठना, लहरों को देखना और समुद्री हवा का आनंद लेना हमारे मन और शरीर को बहुत आनंद दिया। इस बार हमने यह भी देखा कि समुद्र तट के किनारों को और अधिक आकर्षक बनाया गया है। इस बार हमें समुद्री तटों पर और उसके आसपास बैठने की बेहतर व्यवस्था मिली।

ओल्ड और न्यू दीघा दोनों के समुद्र तट के पास रात खूबसूरत है।पुराने दीघा और न्यू दीघा समुद्र तटों दोनों में बहुत सारे स्टॉल हैं जहाँ से आप स्थानीय रूप से बने बैग, शंख से बनी वस्तुएँ आदि खरीद सकते हैं। आपको वहां खाने के स्टॉल भी मिल जाएंगे।इस बार हमें समुद्र तट पर रात के समय लाइटिंग डेकोरेशन देखने को मिला जो पर्यटकों के आकर्षण का केंद्र है।

(ओल्ड दीघा के समुद्र तट पर लाइटिंग डेकोरेशन)👉

👈(रात के दौरान दीघा बीच)

इस बार हमें समुद्र तट के समानांतर नई दीघा से मोहना तक फैली पक्की सड़क मिली। इस तस्वीर में आप देख सकते हैं कि पर्यटक सड़क पर चल रहे हैं और कुछ पर्यटक समुद्र तट के तटबंध पर बने प्लेटफॉर्म पर बैठे हैं। आपको चाय, खाद्य पदार्थ और अन्य सामान बेचने वाले विक्रेता भी मिल सकते हैं। इस बार हमने देखा कि पर्यटक दीघा समुद्र तट की रात की खूबसूरती का लुत्फ उठा रहे हैं। हमने दीघा समुद्र तट की रात की खूबसूरती का भी लुत्फ उठाया।

इस बार हमने न्यू दीघा के अमरावती पार्क का भी भ्रमण किया। यह एक सुंदर प्रकृति पार्क है जिसमें प्रचुर मात्रा में हरियाली है। पार्क के अंदर एक बड़ी झील, पेड़ , पौधे और रोपवे है। पार्क के अंदर जाने के लिए प्रवेश शुल्क है तथा नौका विहार और रोपवे की सवारी के लिए अलग टिकट है। हमने रोपवे की सवारी का आनंद लिया क्योंकि रोपवे से बगीचे का पूरा दृश्य दिखाई देता है। आप झील और आसपास के क्षेत्र को कवर करते हुए रोपवे से ली गई तस्वीर देख सकते हैं।

(शाम को रोपवे से ली गई तस्वीर) 👉

👈(अमरावती पार्क के भीतर बतख)

पार्क के भीतर आपको बत्तख, जानवर और अन्य पक्षी मिल जाएंगे। पार्क के भीतर बच्चों के खेलने का क्षेत्र है।

(ज्वार के दौरान दीघा में मोहोना बीच पर सुबह ) 👉

मोहना चंपा नदी का बंगाल की खाड़ी से मिलन स्थल है। ज्वार के दौरान समुद्र और नदी में अंतर करना बहुत मुश्किल होता है। भाटा के दौरान जब नदी का पानी समुद्र की ओर बह रहा होता है तो चंपा नदी स्पष्ट रूप से दिखाई देती है। ज्वार के दौरान समुद्र का पानी चंपा नदी की ओर बहता है। मोहना में एक मछली बाजार है। मोहना में सूर्योदय का आनंद लिया जा सकता है। मोहना में सूर्योदय सुंदर है।बादल छाए रहने के कारण हम इस यात्रा के दौरान सूर्योदय का आनंद नहीं ले सके। हम अपनी अगली दीघा यात्रा के दौरान इसका आनंद लेने की आशा करते हैं।

👈इस यात्रा के दौरान हमें समुद्र तट के पास दीघा में पर्यटकों के आकर्षण वाली कई ऐसी खूबसूरत संरचनाएं देखने को मिलीं। हमें ऐसे खूबसूरती से डिजाइन किए गए शेड भी देखने को मिले जहां पर्यटक बैठ सकते है।

👇

दीघा के अपने तीन दिवसीय दौरे में, हमने मुख्य रूप से पुराने और नए दीघा में समुद्री तटों को कवर किया। दीघा के पास कई अन्य स्थान हैं जैसे मंदारमणि, शंकरपुर बीच, उदयपुर बीच, तलसारी बीच, चंदनेश्वर मंदिर, आदि जो पर्यटकों के लिए आकर्षक हैं। हमने मंदारमणि की अपनी अगली यात्रा के दौरान इन स्थानों को कवर करने का निर्णय लिया है। हम कुछ दिनों में कई स्थानों को कवर करने वाले तूफानी दौरे पसंद नहीं करते। हम अवकाश यात्रा पसंद करते हैं।

इस यात्रा के दौरान हमने अपने भीतर जो बदलाव महसूस किए:

शादी के कुछ ही दिनों बाद हम हनीमून के लिए दीघा गए। चूंकि हमारी अरेंज मैरिज थी और शादी से पहले एक-दूसरे को नहीं जानते थे, इसलिए हमारे बीच समझ विकसित करने में काफी समय लगा। इसलिए दीघा की पहली यात्रा के दौरान हमारा अनुभव आनंद से अधिक रोमांच था। हम एक-दूसरे की पसंद-नापसंद के बारे में नहीं जानते थे और अपनी पिछली यात्रा के दौरान एक-दूसरे के लिए इतने खुले नहीं थे। हमने अपने बीच समझ विकसित करने के लिए समुद्र के किनारे और समुद्री तटों पर एक-दूसरे के साथ समय बिताया। हमने स्ट्रीट फूड जैसे चिंगरी भाजा (तली हुई झींगा), बेगुनी (तली हुई बैंगन), बादाम भाजा (तली हुई मूंगफल्ली), आदि का आनंद लिया और काजू, शंख से बनी सामग्री, आदि की कुछ खरीदारी की। इसलिए दीघा की हमारी पहली हनीमून यात्रा आपसी समझ विकसित करने पर अधिक केंद्रित था।

इस बार दीघा की हमारी यात्रा पूरी तरह से अवकाश और आनंद पर केंद्रित था। हमारे बीच आपसी समझ विकसित करने के लिए तीस साल का साथ पर्याप्त से अधिक है। दीघा की पहली और दूसरी दोनों यात्रा में कुछ समानताएं और अंतर हैं। दीघा की दोनों यात्राओं में मैं अपनी पत्नी के साथ था लेकिन फर्क सिर्फ इतना है कि अब हमारे दो वयस्क बेटे हैं, हालांकि वर्तमान में उनके अध्ययन और नौकरी के कारण हमारे साथ नहीं रह रहे हैं। मैं अपनी पिछली यात्रा के दौरान नौकरी पर था। इस यात्रा के दौरान मैं एक सेवानिवृत्त व्यक्ति हूं और जीवन की दूसरी पारी व्यतीत कर रहा हूं। इस बार हम कुछ जिम्मेदारियों से मुक्त थे और इसलिए इस यात्रा का बेहतर आनंद उठाया। हमने अपने दिल और दिमाग से इस दीघा यात्रा का आनंद उठाया। इस बार हमने अपने दिल की गहराई से अलग-अलग नजरिए से प्रकृति और उसकी सुंदरता का आनंद उठाया। इस यात्रा के दौरान हम अपने एक मित्र के संपर्क में आए जो मेरा सहकर्मी भी था और संयोग से उसकी पत्नी भी मेरी पत्नी की सहपाठी थी जिसे मैं पहले नहीं जानता था। मेरी पत्नी और मेरे दोस्त की पत्नी के लिए यह बहुत अधिक आनंद की बात थी क्योंकि वे 35 साल बाद मिल रहे थे। इसने हमारे दीघा दौरे को और अधिक मनोरंजक तथा हमेशा के लिए यादगार बना दिया।

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