Talking to Self
1. Manoj is in the habit of doing both morning walk and evening walk on daily basis. One day he was doing evening walk alone in a big ground. During the walk he was talking to self. Then suddenly he realized that he started talking to self which anybody passing nearby can hear. But luckily nobody was there nearby. Have you ever talked to yourself when you are alone? I am sure most of us are in the habit of talking to self when alone. You will find hardly any person who never do self-talk when alone. Talking to self or self-talk is very important for every individual during all the stages of life. Self-talk is a process in which an individual talk to self without involvement of any other person. Generally speaking, no talk is possible without the involvement of at least two individuals. But in self-talk there is an involvement of only one single individual.
2. Self-talk is
having many advantages if used properly. Self-talk helps an individual
to introspect which ultimately helps in self-rectification. A person is
completely frank and open during self-talk. Every individual is most frank with
self than with any other person, however close that person may be. During self-talk,
a person generally talks about the things from his or her memory. During self-talk
a person feed some thoughts in his or her subconscious mind which later on
become his or her belief. Therefore, be careful while doing self-talk as any
self-talk doing repeatedly for 21 days and more can feed your subconscious mind
with the thoughts that you are repeating during self-talk. Positive self-talk
affects our ability to control emotions and mental health.
3. One can cherish
memorable moments through self-talk which helps in refreshing both mind
and body. Self-talk helps in building personality by raising our
self-esteem provided how we use self-talk. Self-talk can also inject
negativity in our mind if one talks negative during self-talk. Repetition of
same sentences during self-talk consistently for several days feed our
sub-conscious mind with those thoughts which may be reflected in our
action.
4. One can make
self-talk very effective for the achievement of goals. Make it a habit to do
self-talk in the morning after waking up and before going to sleep. Your
self-talk should be linked to your goal. During self-talk you should ask what
you want in your life. Never complain during self-talk. During self-talk you
should ask what you want in your life. Never tell anything which you don't
want. Self-talk should be always in affirmative and should be focused on what
you want. It should not be focused on what you don't want. For example, if
someone is facing financial problems, then what should be his or her self-talk?
It should be focused on financial abundance instead getting out of
financial crisis.
5. Before starting a
day in the morning, one should do self-talk. Before asking anything from the
universe, first express your gratitude to the universe for whatever you are
having. For example, you may thank the universe for having good health, compatible
spouse, lovely children, good parents, good house to live in, etc. Then you ask
for what you want further in your life. Before asking for yourself ask for the
world, mankind, society and family in which you are living. Then you ask for
yourself. Expressing gratitude during self-talk is the acknowledgement for what
you are already having. You may ask for the achievement of your both short term
and long-term goal during self-talk. Always talk with yourself about the things
that you want to have in future. Whenever you talk with yourself regarding your
personality, talk about your desired personality which you want to have. Talk
with yourself about your desired personality, desired health, desired house and
other belongings, desired relationship, desired futures, etc.
6. Our self-talks
may be positive self-talk or negative self-talk. Positive self-talk is having
many benefits. Positive self-talk may impact our daily life by improving our
emotions, behaviours and general wellbeing. Positive Self-talk helps in
forgetting bad memories or at least help in reducing the intensity of bad
memories. Positive self-talk helps in increasing our confidence as we affirm
our talents and skills during self-talk. Positive self-talk helps in reducing
stress and anxiety, whereas negative self-talk is a cause for tension and
anxiety. Positive self-talk helps in improving our mood which makes us feel
happier even during crisis situations. It also helps in developing resilience
and capacity to endure in difficult situation. It also helps in improving
relationships with others.
7. On the other
hand, negative self-talk is having adverse effect on our mood and thought
process. It increases our stress and anxiety. Negative self-talk leads to low
self-esteem which may adversely affects the quality of an individual's life
leading to persistent feelings of sadness, depression, anger and guilt.
Negative self-talk reduces the confidence of a person which is detrimental to
the overall performance of an individual. Negative self-talk feeds negativity
in our sub-conscious mind which may act as a deterrent in finding out solutions
to a problem. Whereas positivity helps an individual in finding out solution to
every problem while on the other hand negativity makes an individual to find
problems in every solution. Therefore, positive self-talk enables an individual
to improve problem solving abilities. Negative self-talk deteriorates problem
solving ability of an individual.
8. Optimistic
persons always think positive and talk positive while pessimistic persons
always think negative as well as talk negative. Doing positive self-talk
consistently for a long period can make a person optimistic. Let us cultivate
the habit of doing positive self-talk and encourage others to develop this
habit to create an atmosphere of positivity in our locality and society to make
it a better place to live.
