Promises to Self
In
one of my articles ‘How to make post-retirement life happy and fruitful?’
I mentioned that the foremost reason for happiness during post-retirement life
is not having any boss and all the 24 hours in a day are at our disposal. But
the question is how many persons during their post- retirement life are
utilizing their time in a fruitful manner to pursue their hobbies and to
achieve their goals set during their post-retirement life. You will find
that very few persons are utilizing their time in a fruitful manner.
2.
The question is why many persons are not able to utilize their time in a
fruitful manner? The answer lies in the second paragraph of my article ‘How
to make post-retirement life happy and fruitful?’ in which there is a
mention about the absence of boss during post-retirement life. Since we have
spent 30-35 years of our life in working under the direction of boss, we could
not develop the habit of working on our own. You will not be surprised to know
that many persons could not set their goals during their post-retirement life. They
do not have any objective for the rest of their life.
3.
To make the post-retirement life purposeful and fruitful one need to find out
the purpose and objectives for their rest of the life. In addition, one is
required to set their goals with definite timeframe for its achievement. You
know whenever we make promise to someone, we try to fulfil it. If one is making
promise to spouse, then definitely all the efforts are made to fulfil that
promise. It is therefore advisable to make a promise to spouse regarding
achievement of your goal within the targeted date. You may also make a promise
to yourself regarding achievement of your goal. Develop the habit of making
promises to self for the achievement of your goals. After making a promise to
self, ask yourself about the progress made in fulfilling your promise. Constant
reminder to self about the promise made will help you in achieving your goal.
Mere promise will not help in achieving your goal. It needs continuous follow
up with the self.
4.
Promise to self is important not only during the second innings of life but also
during all the stages of our life. In paragraph 4 of my article ‘Talking to
Self’, I have mentioned that the self-talk can be effectively used
for the achievement of goals. Whenever you are making promises to self you are
talking to self. During your working life you were accountable to your boss
regarding your performance. Absence of boss during post-retirement life makes
us unaccountable. Therefore, it is very much essential to make ourselves boss for
our own performances i.e. to make ourselves our own boss. Therefore, it is
advisable to be your own boss and make accountable to yourself by making
promises to self.
5.
How to make your self-promises effective in achieving your goals? The success
rate of fulfilment of your self-promise depends on the degree of emotional
attachment to it. Therefore, after making promise to self, develop
emotional attachment to it. More you make emotional attachment the chances of
its fulfilment increases. Have a picture or rough sketch of your promise to
make it concrete and place it in your bedroom or any other convenient place in
your home to make it easily visible to you. If you are not able to picturize
your promise, then you can write it in bold and big letters on a sheet of paper.
See the picture or writing at least once in the morning and once before going
to bed for sleep every day. Daily visualization of it day and night will make
your subconscious mind to work for its fulfilment and automatically all your
thoughts and actions will be channelized in the direction of achieving your
goal. In addition, it is very much essential to formulate your action points
for the fulfilment of your promise made to self. Initiate action and frequently
monitor its progress. In this way you can make your self-promises effective in
achieving your goals.
6.
We are in this material world for a very limited time period. There should be
some purpose in our life. Find out some purpose in your life which will drive
and motivate you to lead the life happily. Make a promise to self to create
happiness and positivity in your mind. Make a promise to spread positivity and
happiness to your near and dear as well as to your neighborhoods and
society. Make a promise to self to be helpful, caring and kind to others. Make
a promise to self to make yourself a good human being and to have positive
contribution to the society and mankind. Let us hope that by making the above
promises to self we can make our society as well as this planet a better place
to live.
Reference Links:
1. https://post-retirementlife.blogspot.com/2023/09/how-to-make-post-retirement-life-happy.html
2. https://post-retirementlife.blogspot.com/2023/12/talking-to-self.html
