Talking to Self

1. Manoj is in the habit of doing both morning walk and evening walk on daily basis. One day he was doing evening walk alone in a big ground. During the walk he was talking to self. Then suddenly he realized that he started talking to self which anybody passing nearby can hear. But luckily nobody was there nearby.  Have you ever talked to yourself when you are alone? I am sure most of us are in the habit of talking to self when alone. You will find hardly any person who never do self-talk when alone. Talking to self or self-talk is very important for every individual during all the stages of life. Self-talk is a process in which an individual talk to self without involvement of any other person. Generally speaking, no talk is possible without the involvement of at least two individuals. But in self-talk there is an involvement of only one single individual. 

2. Self-talk is having many advantages if used properly. Self-talk helps an individual to introspect which ultimately helps in self-rectification. A person is completely frank and open during self-talk. Every individual is most frank with self than with any other person, however close that person may be. During self-talk, a person generally talks about the things from his or her memory. During self-talk a person feed some thoughts in his or her subconscious mind which later on become his or her belief. Therefore, be careful while doing self-talk as any self-talk doing repeatedly for 21 days and more can feed your subconscious mind with the thoughts that you are repeating during self-talk. Positive self-talk affects our ability to control emotions and mental health. 

3. One can cherish memorable moments through self-talk which helps in refreshing both mind and body. Self-talk helps in building personality by raising our self-esteem provided how we use self-talk. Self-talk can also inject negativity in our mind if one talks negative during self-talk. Repetition of same sentences during self-talk consistently for several days feed our sub-conscious mind with those thoughts which may be reflected in our action.  

4. One can make self-talk very effective for the achievement of goals. Make it a habit to do self-talk in the morning after waking up and before going to sleep. Your self-talk should be linked to your goal. During self-talk you should ask what you want in your life. Never complain during self-talk. During self-talk you should ask what you want in your life. Never tell anything which you don't want. Self-talk should be always in affirmative and should be focused on what you want. It should not be focused on what you don't want. For example, if someone is facing financial problems, then what should be his or her self-talk? It should be focused on financial abundance instead getting out of financial crisis. 

5. Before starting a day in the morning, one should do self-talk. Before asking anything from the universe, first express your gratitude to the universe for whatever you are having. For example, you may thank the universe for having good health, compatible spouse, lovely children, good parents, good house to live in, etc. Then you ask for what you want further in your life. Before asking for yourself ask for the world, mankind, society and family in which you are living. Then you ask for yourself. Expressing gratitude during self-talk is the acknowledgement for what you are already having. You may ask for the achievement of your both short term and long-term goal during self-talk. Always talk with yourself about the things that you want to have in future. Whenever you talk with yourself regarding your personality, talk about your desired personality which you want to have. Talk with yourself about your desired personality, desired health, desired house and other belongings, desired relationship, desired futures, etc. 

6. Our self-talks may be positive self-talk or negative self-talk. Positive self-talk is having many benefits. Positive self-talk may impact our daily life by improving our emotions, behaviours and general wellbeing. Positive Self-talk helps in forgetting bad memories or at least help in reducing the intensity of bad memories. Positive self-talk helps in increasing our confidence as we affirm our talents and skills during self-talk. Positive self-talk helps in reducing stress and anxiety, whereas negative self-talk is a cause for tension and anxiety. Positive self-talk helps in improving our mood which makes us feel happier even during crisis situations. It also helps in developing resilience and capacity to endure in difficult situation. It also helps in improving relationships with others.   

7. On the other hand, negative self-talk is having adverse effect on our mood and thought process. It increases our stress and anxiety. Negative self-talk leads to low self-esteem which may adversely affects the quality of an individual's life leading to persistent feelings of sadness, depression, anger and guilt. Negative self-talk reduces the confidence of a person which is detrimental to the overall performance of an individual. Negative self-talk feeds negativity in our sub-conscious mind which may act as a deterrent in finding out solutions to a problem. Whereas positivity helps an individual in finding out solution to every problem while on the other hand negativity makes an individual to find problems in every solution. Therefore, positive self-talk enables an individual to improve problem solving abilities. Negative self-talk deteriorates problem solving ability of an individual. 

8. Optimistic persons always think positive and talk positive while pessimistic persons always think negative as well as talk negative. Doing positive self-talk consistently for a long period can make a person optimistic. Let us cultivate the habit of doing positive self-talk and encourage others to develop this habit to create an atmosphere of positivity in our locality and society to make it a better place to live.